I feel bad for having ignored this blog (yet again) but today, after some very encouraging comments from a certain anonymous reader, I decided to write again. Firstly, I can’t get past the fact that it’s 2010. 2010?? Really?? Already? And it’s already one month old? What is going on? Where is time going? What did I do / accomplish in 2009? Was it a productive year? Was it a happy year? What happened?
Overall, I think 2009 was an average year. Average in terms of activity, average in terms of accomplishments, average in terms of happiness…. and average is good. 🙂
Talking about accomplishments, there were a couple. One was the new food blog with my dear friend Amitabh, which took off very well. But we both have gotten busy with other things that the food blog became another thing that we ended up ignoring. That’s all right though, you cook when you are in the mood and you write about it when you are really in a good mood. So, it’s all good. It’ll happen when it has to happen. The other accomplishment was in terms of art… there were a few shows, but nothing spectacular to report. But what was indeed spectacular was getting published. More than anything, it was a, “Hey you! you better continue painting.” 🙂
My parents visited in October and although it was a very short trip, it was absolutely wonderful. We celebrated Diwali together after nine years! yes nine years! My!! Where did all the years go? Obviously, there was Ma’s incredibly delicious food, her pampering us from the moment we woke up to the moment we went to bed, her transforming my vegetable garden into a productive green haven, and so much more she did, Dad’s intelligent tid-bits, and all that….. but more than any of that, what I enjoyed the most was my long conversations with Ma. Gosh! how I miss her! Our phone conversations are long and nice but nothing compares to sitting at the breakfast table, sipping a nice cup of chai, looking out at the bouganvilla and just chatting… exchanging recipes, complaining about our husbands, sharing tid bits, recounting memories, telling stories, oh! the love just flowed in every single bit that exchanged between us. It’s wonderful how she’s now my best friend, and how I’m hers. 🙂
Of the several things that happened in 2009, I noticed there were a lot of parties to attend, a lot friends getting married or the married ones having babies, buying houses, celebrating a million Indian festivals, settling, you know! The reason I bring this up is in 2009 I noticed that I hate (yes, hate) huge parties. I love my one-on-one conversations with my girl friends, those are my favorites, but we aren’t talking about those here. I like small parties with just a few friends who get together to enjoy each other’s company and play games…. I hate the parties where all you do is eat and talk, the men on one side of the room and all the women on the other. So, here’s another resolution. I have decided that I’m going to simplify here too. Just go to the parties that I really want to and learn to say No, Thank you, to the other ones.
In terms of travel, Egypt was the highlight. I will not write anything here about it at all, since it would be unfair to not dedicate a nice long post just to the trip. So, that should be coming up pretty soon here.
Coming to, what I think is, the most important aspect of 2009. It was the year of realizing that when you make compromises in life, they don’t always mean sacrifices. There is a way to find happiness in what you give up and what you get. And the key here is finding happiness in what you have, not in what you had, not in what you will or could have…. just in what that is. It was the year of throwing regrets out the window and embracing the current scenario, as it is and finding a happiness in that. Doesn’t it sound like I should be beaming with a Zen like smile every day with this realization? Yes, there are a few (yes, very few) days when I am, but boy! the other days are just too hard. It’s a state very difficult to achieve, and it takes a lot of effort to calm a restless one like me down. But when you do get there, there’s peace, within and with out. And in that peace, lies a smile…. as you go closer you find that is none other than your own. 🙂